The Holiday Conversation No One Wants to Have (But Everyone Needs To)

The holidays bring families together—and with them, the perfect opportunity for one of the most uncomfortable conversations: money. 


Talking to Your Family about Money Over the Holidays

Whether your family is just beginning to plan or has been navigating financial decisions across generations, these conversations can feel difficult. Even families with a long-standing wealth strategy can struggle to talk about money. A plan may exist, but without open dialogue, it can feel unclear or disconnected from the people it’s meant to serve—especially as life changes and new generations step into the picture. 


Too often, they happen only in moments of crisis—forced, emotional, and at times of peak stress. But it doesn’t have to be that way. The truth is, the best time to talk about money is before you’re forced to. 


Why This Matters Now 

The holidays offer a rare window when everyone's actually in the same room (or house). Use it. Not to ambush anyone over green bean casserole, but to plant seeds for important conversations. 


How to Start the Conversation Without Ruining Dinner

Ask, don't tell. 
"Mom, Dad—do you have someone helping you manage your finances?" is better than "You need to get your affairs in order." 


Make it about peace of mind, not money. 
On the flip side, maybe you have a wealth strategy but have been avoiding communicating your plans down to your children, grandchildren, or others. Frame it as reducing stress and uncertainty, not dividing assets. 


Offer to help with specifics. 
"What if we take a little time in January to organize your documents? I’ll bring lunch over and we can make progress together." -Gives structure without pressure. 


Share your own plans first. 
"We just updated our will, and it was such a relief. I can’t believe how simple it was and the peace of mind knowing it is taken care of. If you want, I can tell you how easy it was and maybe it will help?”  -Opens the door without prying. 


Know when to bring in a professional. 
Sometimes a neutral third party makes all the difference. That's where we come in. 


The Cost of Waiting 

We've seen what happens when families wait too long: rushed decisions during medical emergencies, siblings discovering conflicting assumptions after a parent passes, or preventable tax consequences because no one knew the full picture. 

These aren't just financial problems—they're family problems. And they're avoidable. 


Let's Make This Easy 

If your family needs a framework for these conversations, we can help. Whether it's facilitating a family meeting, organizing documents, or simply providing a roadmap for what needs to be discussed, we've guided hundreds of families through this process. Carving out 15 minutes for this conversation now could save your family years of stress later. Perhaps just forwarding this post to them will plant the seed...


We are here to help.  Contact us and we'll listen and provide the support you need to start and continue the conversation.


Please note: This summary is for informational purposes only and does not constitute tax or legal advice. Individual outcomes may vary. We recommend consulting with tax, legal, and other advisors before making any decisions. If you don’t already have these professionals in your network, please let us know as we work with many on a regular basis.


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